40 Something and Clinging Onto This Decade by My Fingernails

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Although I have managed this decade better than others, I’m not looking forward to hitting the next big ‘0’.
So, it’s me!  the face behind the makeup. Always the makeup artist, never the bride… and that’s ok.

Single Life, Choices & Figuring It Out

Having not always been the best judge of character when it comes to men, I have made peace with my single girl lifestyle and I actually love it.
I’m not saying I would turn down a potential love match, but I’m also not actively seeking it, so it’s going to have to be a chance encounter. Does this actually happen outside of a rom com?
You may or may not know I’ve never had children (which is always a controversial subject when it comes to mums who can’t help but question why you wouldn’t want that little bundle of joy), I mean I don’t question why you had children!
But, if you must know, just refer back to the bad choices of men then that’s your answer as to why and then I ran out of time.
At this point in my life, when I am peri menopausal, constantly tired, always forgetting things (I would forget what I had done with said child), plus have you seen all my travel plans, I wouldn’t be able to do both.

Perimenopause, HRT & Getting Through It

HRT is my saviour. If it’s something you’re thinking of, go to your doctors armed with your symptoms; even the ones you think aren’t related. They likely are.
I went through a stage of wanting to drive my car into a tree. I couldn’t tell you why, I just felt that down. So low and with zero energy I felt lost.
Now I feel I can take on the world again.

Work, Passion & Doing What I Love

I’ve always been lucky enough when it comes to work that I love my job. I always wanted to work in this industry and have been able to.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not just fallen in my lap, I work really hard for it. I never really stop working. I think that happens a lot when you run your own business; it’s hard to switch off.
I laugh every day at work. I have the most amazing clients and it makes me happy to do this work.
Being part of someone’s wedding day and making them feel like their best self is a priceless feeling. Also, with my beauty work, making people feel relaxed and pampered, there aren’t many jobs that have an effect like this.

Mindset & Looking Forward

I try never to regret the things I have done and the choices I made. Ultimately, it’s made me who I am today.
There is no point focusing on the past, you can’t change it and it’s no good focusing on the negative stuff.
I’m desperate to not end up a grumpy old lady, moaning about should have, could have, would haves.
I love celebrating other women and their achievements, and because of this I have the most wonderful industry friends. We are not in competition with each other, just supporting and being each other’s biggest cheerleaders.

Meet Ruby 🐾

If you know me, you know about Ruby. She lights up my life and many other people’s too.
The most sassy Yorkshire Terrier. She’s quite well known around Woodbridge where we live, always after cuddles and treats and flirting with men.
A complete diva, where walking is always optional. She is living her best life at my expense. One of us has private medical insurance and it’s not me.
I wouldn’t change her for anything. Life would be dull without her… but cheaper.

Fun Facts About Me

  • Eminem is my go-to music when I am feeling sad, you just can’t mix the two
  • I love to bake (definitely not Bake Off material, I’m more critical of myself than Mr Hollywood could ever be)
  • I have the Friends logo tattooed on my leg (40th birthday + alcohol)
  • I’ve always wanted to do a skydive but my ear operations prevent this, who knows, maybe one day I’ll just take the risk
  • If I could have dinner with anyone it would be Marilyn Monroe, she was the first female icon to me. Plus a red lip… just wow
  • Controversial maybe, I love a crisp sandwich – Walkers plain is the only way to go
  • I’m a pick and mix fiend
  • My favourite flowers (incase anyone wants to buy me some) are roses and lilies
  • Jo Malone’s Pomegranate Noir is divine
  • I am a jewellery magpie
  • Makeup is my kryptonite… I can’t fight the urge to buy (my friends do not help discourage this either)
  • Pretty Woman will always be my favourite film, I watched it every Friday night when I used to babysit
  • I will visit Rodeo Drive and walk those stars hopefully very soon
  • I love reading travel books and planning my next hundred holidays. just have money and time issues
  • I’m very old school and still work with paper diaries, and I love a notebook (I have at least half a dozen on the go)
  • I have visited 19 countries but I’m very bad around the UK

A Very Fun Final Fact

Here’s a very fun fact to finish on and yes I did Google it as it seemed so wrong:
Cleopatra lived closer in time to the invention of the iPhone than to the building of The Great Pyramid.